We know that you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, the beauty comes from the inside and more of such platitudes. We also know that we all judge people on what they look like, making assumptions about who they are and what kind of life they lead. We all do it, and it simple cannot be helped. If you are overweight or obese, you know that people will look at you and make certain judgements. Similarly, when you suddenly lose a lot of weight, people will judge you as well. While you may be used to strangers doing that, you have to also be aware of the fact that you choosing bariatric procedures will affect the way your nearest and dearest see you as well. The reality is also that they are not wrong in doing that. You are not still simply the same person. You will change, both inside and out after your procedure.
Good and Bad Changes
In most cases, the changes within you are positive. You will have increased confidence and self-esteem and feel a lot less lethargic. The way people see you will also change. If you have a supportive environment around you, you will have to prepare yourself for their compliments and praise. It is likely that you will not have had much of that kind of positive attention in the past, and it can actually be quite unnerving.
Try to always show happy acceptance in a grateful and dignified manner. Don’t show fear of the inevitable attention or false humility. It is common to feel this way, but you should try to overcome that. Do that by preparing yourself long before you actually start losing the weight. Be ready to feel like somewhat of a celebrity for a while when suddenly everybody starts commenting on how well you look. For some people, unfortunately, this can lead to some anxiety.
Interestingly, where we see the most negative effects of losing weight is in marriages or other such partnerships. This is because the partner of the person who has lost weight suddenly finds themselves with a whole new person. Remember, you will change on the inside as well. This can be very frightening for your partner. Not just that, your body will change as well. Your partner may be jealous because you have been able to shift the weight. They may also find you less attractive, even though you are healthy. This is a very real issue and if you are in a strong, solid relationship, you need to talk about these issues before you start to lose the weight.
Human beings naturally struggle with change. It makes us feel insecure and unsafe. It is important, therefore, that you are aware of the fact that you will go through some very rapid changes and that will be uncomfortable for both you and those around you. However, communication is key and you must make sure that the lines of communication always stay open.